10 Do’s and 10 Don’ts to Remember When Online Dating

Hey Guys AND Gals,

 

Bob with the CB Staff here.

 

Do you ever wonder, “Why am I not getting responses to my online messages? What can I do to make my profile more attractive?”

 

Here are some of the things which will get you into trouble and reduce your chances of finding  a great online date.  These are TEN obvious things you should avoid doing, and TEN ways to fix  them.

 

Fix ’em and improve your profile- a better profile means better results for YOU.

 

 DON’T just rely on having a great photo:  While it’s been proven that having a great photo is important, it’s also important to have some good text. If all you have is a great photo and haven’t committed at least a little time to putting your profile information together, it shows.  

 

DO: Have at least one great photo AND spend a little time and put together a great profile- spend some time writing about what you like to do, who you are, and what you’re searching for in a partner.

 

 DON’T use a photo that that’s old:  This is one of the biggest online dating sins because once you start emailing back and forth a couple times you’re bound to end up on a video chat. What happens when you meet and you don’t look like the picture? What can you say about that?

 

DO: Use a current photo that shows you at your best. It can be a selfie, or have a friend take one of you. Action shots (you doing something you love, ATVing, fishing, diving) get a lot of attention.

 

 DON’T get sloppy with spelling and grammar:  If your spelling and grammar are horrible other members may think that you don’t care or, at worst, are not very smart. Sorry, it’s the truth.

 

DO: Take the time to use spell check, give your ad the once over or even have a friend look over your ad  before you post. If you’ve already posted, it’s ok to go back and update it later.

 

DON’T lie.  It can get very difficult to keep track of all the little fibs you tell when you make a habit out of it. If you talk a lot, or email a lot, it’ll show you to be untrustworthy.  

 

DO: Be your real self. The real you is pretty good. After all, isn’t that who you want people to fall in love with?

 

DON’T write a novel in your profile. Nobody wants to know you’re gluten intolerant or you live with your brother right off the bat. It can be overwhelming to people who are viewing  your profile.

 

DO: Leave a little bit of mystery. Save your life story for conversing later while you’re getting to know someone. You’ll have more to talk about.

 

 DON’T make your entire profile a list. If your profile looks like a laundry list of “I Don’t Want to Meets”, you’re probably not going to get many responses.  

 

DO: *Briefly* talk about the kind of person you are and the kind of person you’d like to meet. Focus on the positives.

 

 DON’T be weird: Let’s face it. Coming on too strong can be a real turn off.  Don’t bring up sex up right away. Be a little conservative in your first messages.  For example, “I just want to cuddle and listen to your heartbeat” can be kind of scary for someone you’ve just met.

 

DO: Save the sweet (or sexy) stuff for when you get to know them better and they get to know you better.

 

DON’T get attached to someone just based on a photo and a profile, no matter how great the profile picture and text are. There is still a lot you don’t know and can’t know until you’ve had a chance to talk to them.

 

DO:  Slow down and take your time to know the other person before you make a decision on if they’re the right one for you.

 

DON’T send money.  It can be hard when you really think you found someone and they suddenly have a hardship and request money from you.  

 

DO: No, just DON’T. Don’t send money for any reason, especially if you haven’t met them in person. Be sure to report their profile to our customer service team if they do.

 

DON’T be a arrogant or a grump. If all you do is talk about all the bad experiences you’ve had, people pick up on that. If you don’t like to chat or email with people who are constantly moping or bragging, what makes you think other people will want to, too?

 

DO: Be positive. Most people wanting to meet someone online are looking for someone who will be fun to be around. It’s ok to talk yourself up a little bit, but don’t stretch it too much.

 

From experience, we know that it’s hard to go wrong if you just stay honest. Write and talk in a mature and adult way. Be respectful of – it’ll keep things interesting.

here’s a lot of singles  who are looking for love, just like you.

 

Aloha,

 

Bob

Cherry Blossoms Staff  

The Fear of Getting Older and Being Alone-What YOU Can Do About It

Older man looking at a computer

Dear Friends,

Does the thought of getting older strike you with fear?

 

Even if you still feel young at heart and you’re healthy , active and mentally all there?

 

Do you worry that you’ll be alone forever?

 

Don’t think negatively. It’s time to get out there and have life-changing experiences.  So many things are still possible- Including finding love.

 

Here’s a thought that will make you feel better:

The statistics show that online dating is an extremely successful for older men to meet women.

 

Don’t panic about not meeting anyone and worry about spending your life alone. You can have someone in your life. You just need to choose to make the first step towards finding love.

 

If you’re ready to make some new friends or meet someone online, I encourage you to come check out the Cherry Blossoms dating site.

 

Why?

 

We have thousands of members that meet and make good friends they visit in person, and you can too even if you don’t  find that special someone right away.  

 

The main thing is get out there and experience life, both the good and the bad.  It may appear hard at first when you’re making friends, especially when you feel alone.

 

I’m telling you- it really works. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times here at blossoms.com. Once you get the ball rolling it just gets better and better.  You’ll gain friends and maybe, just maybe, you’ll find that special someone to enjoy life with.

Here’s the takeaway:

You CAN be with someone you love.

 

Opt out of being lonely by reaching out to others.  Go online and check out blossoms.com to find friends and cure loneliness.  We just want you to be able to find people to make friends with and people who care about you.  Fill your days with friends and joy, as it just seems like the best choice is to  be happy.

Aloha

Cherry Blossoms Inc.

Online Dating Safety and Guidelines for New Cherry Blossoms Users

Online Safety & User Guidelines

One of the great things about setting up a personal profile  for the purposes of online dating is that you have the chance to really showcase yourself and really express how you want others to view you. Potential dates can now see you as a person, your personality, and perhaps some common traits you may share. The more a person knows about you, the better the odds are for finding a match. The chance to really hit it off is definitely a motivating factor for online dating.

That said, in today’s world of identity theft, fraud, and other online scams, sharing too much information can definitely have negative effects. You need to find a balance between being as open and honest as possible while still protecting yourself and your personal information.

To maximize the benefits of any online dating site , discretion should be exercised. One could say the website acts as a kind of  “buffer zone”.  After all, one of the primary purpose of dating sites like blossoms.com is to ensure the safety and anonymity of its clients up to a certain point; until both sides are confident they can trust one another and take the relationship to the next level.

Online dating safety begins at home with you and you alone.  Here are a few tips to help you on your dating search!

  • Cherry Blossoms and many other dating websites will have a specific section solely devoted to pointers on “online dating safety”. We feel strongly that it’s necessary to review the dating site’s safety pages and stick to the guidelines that are set in place. It may sound redundant, but failure to do so can result in undesired consequences and even unwanted experiences.

 

  • There are some solid points that you want to get into the habit of following while online dating (and in general).  To start, it’s a safe bet that you don’t want any of your personal information out there. Don’t immediately share phone numbers or personal and work addresses. NEVER share social security numbers, and credit card or bank information.

 

  • As far as email addresses are concerned, we highly suggest setting up a new email account specifically to be used for online dating. Giving out your primary and/or work email could also have negative impacts and could again be used for illicit purposes.  Cherry Blossoms’ online dating site already has built in messenger and mail capabilities so it’s best to stick with those means until you’re fully comfortable providing more information about yourself.

 

  • We can’t stress this enough- NEVER SEND MONEY to anyone you have not met in person.  Many customers have reported scams; people asking for money for hospital bills, webcams, or other financial help. Be savvy; learn to recognize these requests for what they are! Report any suspicious behavior and, remember, never send money.

 

Part of a great dating website experience is feeling comfortable, safe and having an all around good time. After all, it’s enough for anyone to continuously worry about all the other threats online nowadays. We want you to feel informed and confident online!

UPDATE: CherryBlossoms.com has a new state of the art chat feature coming online to provide games, fun, and live translations.  So no excuses, come join the fun and stay safe online, be confident in yourself and your profile, and have fun!

What Makes Great Online Dating Site Profile Photos?

Pretty Asian woman

Hey everybody,

 

I was just reading a new study that show why some online dating profile pictures work and some don’t.   This study makes total sense when you think about it; what men and women like in a profile photo are very different.   

 

This study  discovered women like photos of men who show pride and confidence.  Pride and confidence will make you seem more masculine. I am not talking about a picture of you with your shirt off and flexing your muscles or in the bathroom mirror -in our experience these will actually decrease your chances of successfully dating online. Guys,  I am talking about photo of you dressed nicely, smiling, and  looking directly into the camera. Setting is important too:  we’ve noticed women seem to prefer photos of men taken outdoors.

 

Don’t be afraid to ask a friend for help taking pictures. While  men don’t seem to mind selfies on a woman’s profile, women tend to see men posting selfies in a dating profile as being vain.

 

Ladies! Men, on the other hand, preferred photos of women who looked “happy and approachable”.  Be sure to smile! Several studies have shown that the left side of the face is more expressive- so show your left side when taking photos.

 

Consensus here at CB is that you want to dress a little on the conservative side as photos that are too provocative can lead to the wrong kind of attention. Wear some bright colors and outfits that highlight your natural features.

 

Don’t put pictures of yourself with your exes or children in profile pictures. These are important details (if you’ve been divorced, if you have children) but your profile should be about YOU. Share this information on your personal ad; you can and should be upfront about having kids or being previously married.

Guys AND Gals-this is the most important part.

Put on a current picture.   Once you meet someone online it will be a short time before you’re video chatting and it will be hard to explain if you look differently from your profile photo.   Always keep your photos and profile real  and remember the right person will come along and accept you for who you are. Meeting online and having long distance relationships can work.

 

Billy

Cherry Blossoms  Customer Service

PS- It’s quick and easy to upload some great photos on Cherry Blossoms. Do it today! If you’re having issues uploading your pictures, please email them to office@blossoms.com. We will help you get them posted.

Source.

http://www.metronews.ca/news/edmonton/2016/02/29/study-analyzes-why-some-dating-profile-pics-work.html