10 Do’s and 10 Don’ts to Remember When Online Dating

Hey Guys AND Gals,

 

Bob with the CB Staff here.

 

Do you ever wonder, “Why am I not getting responses to my online messages? What can I do to make my profile more attractive?”

 

Here are some of the things which will get you into trouble and reduce your chances of finding  a great online date.  These are TEN obvious things you should avoid doing, and TEN ways to fix  them.

 

Fix ’em and improve your profile- a better profile means better results for YOU.

 

 DON’T just rely on having a great photo:  While it’s been proven that having a great photo is important, it’s also important to have some good text. If all you have is a great photo and haven’t committed at least a little time to putting your profile information together, it shows.  

 

DO: Have at least one great photo AND spend a little time and put together a great profile- spend some time writing about what you like to do, who you are, and what you’re searching for in a partner.

 

 DON’T use a photo that that’s old:  This is one of the biggest online dating sins because once you start emailing back and forth a couple times you’re bound to end up on a video chat. What happens when you meet and you don’t look like the picture? What can you say about that?

 

DO: Use a current photo that shows you at your best. It can be a selfie, or have a friend take one of you. Action shots (you doing something you love, ATVing, fishing, diving) get a lot of attention.

 

 DON’T get sloppy with spelling and grammar:  If your spelling and grammar are horrible other members may think that you don’t care or, at worst, are not very smart. Sorry, it’s the truth.

 

DO: Take the time to use spell check, give your ad the once over or even have a friend look over your ad  before you post. If you’ve already posted, it’s ok to go back and update it later.

 

DON’T lie.  It can get very difficult to keep track of all the little fibs you tell when you make a habit out of it. If you talk a lot, or email a lot, it’ll show you to be untrustworthy.  

 

DO: Be your real self. The real you is pretty good. After all, isn’t that who you want people to fall in love with?

 

DON’T write a novel in your profile. Nobody wants to know you’re gluten intolerant or you live with your brother right off the bat. It can be overwhelming to people who are viewing  your profile.

 

DO: Leave a little bit of mystery. Save your life story for conversing later while you’re getting to know someone. You’ll have more to talk about.

 

 DON’T make your entire profile a list. If your profile looks like a laundry list of “I Don’t Want to Meets”, you’re probably not going to get many responses.  

 

DO: *Briefly* talk about the kind of person you are and the kind of person you’d like to meet. Focus on the positives.

 

 DON’T be weird: Let’s face it. Coming on too strong can be a real turn off.  Don’t bring up sex up right away. Be a little conservative in your first messages.  For example, “I just want to cuddle and listen to your heartbeat” can be kind of scary for someone you’ve just met.

 

DO: Save the sweet (or sexy) stuff for when you get to know them better and they get to know you better.

 

DON’T get attached to someone just based on a photo and a profile, no matter how great the profile picture and text are. There is still a lot you don’t know and can’t know until you’ve had a chance to talk to them.

 

DO:  Slow down and take your time to know the other person before you make a decision on if they’re the right one for you.

 

DON’T send money.  It can be hard when you really think you found someone and they suddenly have a hardship and request money from you.  

 

DO: No, just DON’T. Don’t send money for any reason, especially if you haven’t met them in person. Be sure to report their profile to our customer service team if they do.

 

DON’T be a arrogant or a grump. If all you do is talk about all the bad experiences you’ve had, people pick up on that. If you don’t like to chat or email with people who are constantly moping or bragging, what makes you think other people will want to, too?

 

DO: Be positive. Most people wanting to meet someone online are looking for someone who will be fun to be around. It’s ok to talk yourself up a little bit, but don’t stretch it too much.

 

From experience, we know that it’s hard to go wrong if you just stay honest. Write and talk in a mature and adult way. Be respectful of – it’ll keep things interesting.

here’s a lot of singles  who are looking for love, just like you.

 

Aloha,

 

Bob

Cherry Blossoms Staff  

The Insider’s Guide to a Winning International Online Dating Profile

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Creating an online dating profile can be a scary prospect. While the idea of long distance dating and dating Asian women may sound exciting, it’s a virtual guarantee that you’ll be destined for failure if you don’t spend some time upfront on this important task.

You may be the greatest guy in the world and have a lot to offer, but online dating requires that you put your strengths in writing and stand out from the crowd. Sounds suspiciously like a job interview, doesn’t it? While there are similarities, this is so much more fun if you do it right! Consider these key profile elements as you get started:

Grab ‘Em Fast!

One of the first things that people are going to see is the first line in your profile. It would be a good idea to spend some time making this distinctive and intriguing. Some people like to use song lyrics for headlines while others throw out a bit of humor. Whichever way you choose to go with it, keep it clean and non-controversial and you should be just fine.

Details Please

It should come as no surprise that the profiles that attract the most attention are the most well-written ones. This doesn’t mean that you need to be a professional writer or that you should hire one to excel here.

What you will need to do is set yourself apart from the “I like music and I love to laugh” crowd. While it’s ok to share that you enjoy a good time, provide specific examples of hobbies or activities that you appreciate so that readers can get a better sense of who you are.  For example, try “I like jazz music and eating Thai food”. You get the idea.

When writing your profile, be clear about your objectives and avoid any impulse to either be dishonest or negative in any way. Tell the ladies what you want! “I want to meet a nice woman for romance and love.”

A Picture is Worth…

Well, it’s worth a lot! To begin with, having some good images on your profile is worth not having your profile automatically excluded from searches as many women simply won’t even glimpse a profile that that doesn’t have a picture. As a general rule, posting photos will your profile will get you ten times as many responses as a profile without them! As your photos could be one of the most important elements of your dating profile, here are few tips to make sure you’re on the right track:

  •         For your main profile photo, choose a picture of just you, so there is no guesswork involved.

 

  •         Avoid using your computer’s webcam for photos as these generally turn out pretty dreadful.

 

  •         Post images that show your friendly side, with a normal and easy smile.

 

  •         Include at least two photos and preferably four or more.

 

  •         It’s not considered a good idea to post pictures of yourself with the opposite sex, even if is your sister! Many women find this a turn off and it can be very confusing. More confusion leads to less responses.

There is plenty of conflicting advice about international online dating that can make things confusing for someone new. While the stigma of long distance dating has virtually disappeared, if you want to meet Asian women online, you’ll need to start by working on your profile. If you use the pointers we’ve given you here, you will stand out from the crowd and have the experience you desire. That’s a promise!

 

Source

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rebecca-perkins/writing-online-dating-profile_b_7340918.html

http://www.thelovequeen.com/how-to-create-the-best-online-dating-profile/

http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/blogs/543390/15-ways-to-make-your-online-dating-profile-stand-out-from-the-pack-1.html

http://www.ayi.com/dating-blog/how-to-create-winning-online-dating-profile/

http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice_600/600_online-dating-tips-for-men.html

http://www.pickuplinesgalore.com/online-dating/writeprofile.html

Delays Expected For United States Passports

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 If you’re plan on traveling internationally this year to see your Cherry Blossoms sweetheart and you need a passport, make sure to start  well in advance of your trip. The reason? There are expected to be a bunch of people renewing their passports this year.

This year (2016) is the 10 year anniversary of the initiative which requires American citizens to have a passports for traveling to Mexico and the Caribbean.

Since there were a large number of passports issued 10 years ago, these passports will need to be renewed this year. This could mean delays for you if you are renewing your passport or planning to get a new passport. Even under normal circumstances it can take a couple of months to get your passport! So be sure to plan ahead!

If you already have a passport make sure it is valid for the dates you expect to travel. Some countries will require your passport to be valid for six months after travel and you may also be required to have a visa for certain countries, so be sure to check with the US State Department before you book your flight: http://travel.state.gov/content/visas/en/visit.html

If you’re looking to renew your passport or getting a new one, you can find passport applications at your local US Post Office. You can also take your official passport photos there, too!

Need a passport in a hurry? Expedited services ARE available and you may be able to get it as quickly as three weeks.  For more information, go to the official US Department of State website at: http://travel.state.gov/content/passports/en/passports.html  

Four Great Tips for Long Distance Relationships

Four Great Tips for Long Distance Relationships

 

The collective thinking about long distance relationships (LDR) in the past was that they were only suitable for those who couldn’t find a compatible mate in their own backyard. Today’s technology and changing attitudes have proven that this isn’t the case at all. In fact, a recent Queen’s University study concluded that couples in long distance relationships were just as satisfied as those in “geographically-close” ones. Obviously dating long distance requires some work and more ingenuity than dating someone who lives a mile away. Here are four ways to thrive, and not just survive, in today’s long distance dating environment.

 

Be Optimistic!

 

If you ask enough people and search long enough, there will be plenty who will spout their LDR horror stories. Don’t listen to them. There are just as many people who have found lasting love at extreme distances and the notion that LDR’s “never work” is a myth. If someone tells you that your relationship is “doomed,” ask them how they know this. In fact, your attitude plays the greatest role in the success or failure of your relationship. Long distance online dating has come a long way in the past several years and has provided more connections internationally than ever before. Use this to your advantage.

 

Intimacy Hacks

 

When dating long distance, the opportunities to meet in person could be few and far between. There is evidence to suggest that the amount of “face time” in an LDR has no relevance to the relationship’s success or failure. This means that, if you can’t afford to make a visit just yet, that’s ok.

However, if you want to keep the relationship fresh, the importance of romance and sexual tension can’t be understated. Provocative texting (yes, it’s called “sexting”) is an excellent way to keep both parties engaged-BUT only if both parties agree. Seriously. This works for a lot of couples, but not *every* couple. Make sure to talk about it with your partner before sending any risque photos.

Another way you can take things up a notch and spend time together is by video chatting. We suggest staying on Cherry Blossoms chat while you get to know one another, but there are also a few other great video chat programs out there.

 

Communication

 

Speaking of intimacy, a successful long distance relationship requires a great deal of communication on many levels. Remember that study we referenced earlier? Those same researchers concluded that among people in LDRs, the ones who were the most successful were those that lived the farthest apart because they had more meaningful and effective communication. This doesn’t happen on its own!

 

Couples who wish to stay together must make an effort to open the lines of communication and keep them open. This requires both honesty and creativity when doing so at a distance. Share things with your partner, from minute day-to-day events to your fears and hopes for the future.

 

It’s the Little Things

 

When involved in long distance online dating, there are things that you can do both for yourself and your partner to keep the other close even when they are miles away. Having a photograph of your significant other in view is a great way to keep them close psychologically. Long distance relationship gifts and mementos are also nice ways to remind the other person that you are thinking of them. Sending flowers long distance is a wonderful option and can be done through Cherry Blossoms. Other thoughtful long distance relationship gifts might include such things as music, a small pendant, or a handwritten card. You don’t have to spend a lot to show someone else that you care, as it really is the simple things that mean the most in a lasting relationship.

 

WARNING: We suggest you not send money to anyone you have not met in person. The CB Staff can’t stress this enough.

 

Long distance relationships may come with their own set of challenges, but they can also provide lasting rewards. As the Chinese saying goes, “Real gold is not afraid of the test of fire.” The myth that dating long distance is a recipe for disaster is just that – a myth. Thanks to technology and evolving attitudes about international dating, couples are finding lasting love at some surprising distances in greater numbers each day.

 

Resources:

 

21 Best Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

http://nymag.com/thecut/2014/05/are-long-distance-relationships-actually-healthy.html#

The Epic Guide To Making Your Long Distance Relationship Thrive (Not Just Survive!)

http://mic.com/articles/104104/here-s-what-long-distance-couples-can-teach-the-rest-of-us#.mm4ubrSxQhttp://www.longdistancerelationships.net/faqs.htm

http://www.psmag.com/business-economics/long-distance-relationships-really-can-work-71161

The Top Misconceptions About Dating Asian Women

The Top Misconceptions About Dating Asian Women

 

While the idea of dating Asian women is appealing to many men, some just approach the entire enterprise from the wrong perspective. Perhaps it’s a lifetime of being exposed to stereotypes of Asian women in Western movies or other popular culture that forms our beliefs. Regardless, there are many false ideas about Asian dating that are not going to serve your best interests. Here are the top misconceptions about Asian women that could be holding you back.

All Asian Women Are the Same

To lump all Asian women into one class and expect them to be the same is naivety at its best. We don’t expect that Italian women will be the same as German women, or even that someone from California will behave like someone from Wisconsin. All Asian women are not the same. Consider this: Asia includes 51 different countries and a total population of 4.3 billion people. China alone is made up of 23 separate provinces (and 11 other divisions), with as many as 292 languages spoken in the country. These are diverse cultures with very different people and to lump them all together would be a mistake.

 

Asian Women Are All Submissive

If you are solely interested in Asian dating because you believe that all Asian women are submissive, you may be in for an awakening. Long-standing stereotypes lead Western men to think that the typical Asian woman can be found trailing her man by several paces with her head bowed. While you may be able to find your dream subservient mate if you look long enough, this isn’t today’s reality. Filipina women are known to be intensely loyal as well as headstrong. In China, Shanghainese women are more dominant. Finally, there is a culture in the Yunnan Province in Western China in which the male can be kicked out of the home at any time, and often is at the whim of the female. This isn’t the norm, as what you are more likely to find are polite women who lack some of the drama that Western women tend to exude. Takeaway? Don’t assume anything with regards to Asian women and treat each one as an individual worthy of respect.

 

All Asian Women Want a Western Man

While Western men are attractive to many Asian women for a variety of reasons, this isn’t universal. A Western man can’t just assume that any Asian woman he runs across is going to fall at his feet. Many Asian women today have come to realize that the grass may not be greener on the other side of the fence. When it comes to money, security is just as important to women in other cultures as it is to yours, so wanting someone who can provide this isn’t a race issue. Even if a majority of Asian women don’t want anything to do with Western men, let’s still do the math. Remember those 4.3 billion people in Asia? If just 25% of the females desired a Western man, you’d have a pool of over a half a billion women as potential mates. Those aren’t bad odds.

 

Online Asian dating offers willing singles an opportunity to connect and have fun. Your best approach is to ditch the misconceptions about Asian women and simply approach your Cherry Blossoms experience as the adventure it was meant to be.

Sources:

http://blog.blossoms.com/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/China

http://jezebel.com/5901327/why-asian-women-date-white-men

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/askmen/asian-women-and-white-men_b_2781887.html

http://www.returnofkings.com/45275/5-misconceptions-about-white-guys-with-asian-girls