Cherry Blossoms Friends,
With oil prices at a 10 year low, airline ticket prices are slowly coming down. This is great news for you if you’re looking to save money on a flight to see your lady!
Of course, you’re going to want to plan ahead. A recent study concluded that the best time to book your international flight to Asia (and save the most money) is 160 days in advance.
Additionally, it’s best to purchase tickets well in advance if traveling internationally. If you’re planning on travelling to the United States, it’s recommended you buy 54 days in advance. If you’re looking at traveling to Europe, it’s best to purchase tickets 120 days in advance.
Cherry Blossoms members, if you’re looking at traveling to see your girlfriend or fiancee AND you want to get the cheapest tickets, right now is the right time to book your tickets.
Please submit the Certificate of Finality and Decree of Absolute Nullity of Marriage recorded in the Office of the Civil Registrar with the court stamp or Annulment Decree from the National Statistics Office as copied below. Final Decision from OCR is not accepted by USCIS or the US Embassy.
Please take note that both LCR and NSO-C.O. should annotate the MS copies at their end.
We Love hearing YOUR stories, always feel free to send us pictures and your good words so we can keep the flame alive for everyone searching for that special someone!
It’s our pleasure to inform you that we both met on your site and we are now happily married on the 22 of march of 2014 our user profiles are Jesus and Rissa. we’ve uploaded 2 photos of the wedding on my profile feel free to use them or contact us, thanks for the great service and making possible for us to find each other.”
Congratulations, Jesus & Rissa! We wish you both the very best in laughter, life and love.
Your Time, Love and Care are the most important things you can share with your Filipina sweetheart in the aftermath of Typhoon Haiyan/Yolanda
By now it should come as no surprise that any natural disaster, regardless of where it happens in the world, will impact relationships and families. Whether you are just starting to navigate the Asian online dating experience, or have found that one true love – when tragedy strikes, everyone is affected.
Almost two weeks ago, typhoon Haiyan struck the Philippine islands, and other Asian communities. As we can all see from the news broadcasts, members of these communities are suffering immeasurable losses. Our hearts, thoughts, and prayers go out for them. During such difficult times, it is understandable that we all feel the desire to help and ease such pain. For the special someone in your life, the hurts are very close to home. For your Filipina girlfriend or fiancé residing in the West, when reading or watching distressing news from “home,” this information may bring about fits of arguments, tears, and even accusations of not caring enough.
At times, the best advice to help our loved ones is to make sure that we take care of ourselves first. While some would argue that such ideas are “selfish,” consider the perspective that you can’t help anyone if you are significantly impaired. She needs you to be strong for her, and her family right now.
Below are a list of ideas that may help you and your loved one (your Filipina or Asian girlfriend) weather the storm of distressing feelings during a natural disaster in her homeland.
The Importance of “We”
It’s no surprise that online relationships can be challenging, especially when trying to meet Filipino or Chinese women online. Whether you are looking for a pen pal; a long term relationship, of your future bride; building a future life with an Asian woman will take work and many are up for the task. Looking for love outside of your own culture can be exciting and rewarding; as interracial couples (Caucasian or European men and Asian women) tend to report that just being aware of their cultural differences increases curiosity and discussing their differences directly may even enhance intimacy.
A recent research study (Seshadri & Knudson‐Martin, 2013) examined inter-cultural (as well as interracial) relationships in the United States. Cultural differences, especially around tradition (how we “should be”/“should behave”/”social expectations”) in a long term relationships or marriages become opportunities to co-create new traditions, increase personal meaning, and intimate strength in relationships. After conducting multiple interviews, researchers identified 4 relationship structures involving mixed culture relationships (see below).
One wife said ‘‘I thought I was pretty westernized until I married my husband. Then I realized that I was actually pretty Asian in a lot of ways. I think it’s relative to who I’m with…’’
4 Relationship Structures with cross-cultural relationships (marriages)
Couples can use 4 major strategies to manage their cultural differences on a day-by-day basis:
- Creating a We. Building a life after meeting online, dating and agreeing to marriage involves co-authoring a new chapter in a life story, your story. The key pieces involved in creating a ‘‘we’’ include: friendship, common ground, similar goals, working together over time, and commitment.
- Framing Differences. How couples look at cultural differences makes all the difference. Key pieces in framing differences include sharing differences as attractive, being flexible and respectful about your spouse’s culture, and understand that cultural differences are something to learn about and celebrate.
- Paying Attention to Feelings. We all need somebody to lean on. Strong emotions may come up from difficult culture-related situations, for example disapproval from a family member. Communicating with your spouse about your feelings and insecurities, and clearly listening to theirs will help strengthen the emotional connection. Find ways to make adjustments around culture-related differences and find support with each other.
- Connecting with family and community members. “Hi Mum and Dad…Meet my special someone.” No couple is an island, it is important to set boundaries and draw respectful lines with family and community members who may have strong feelings about your friendships and relationships. Sometimes it is best not to react to negative opinions; stay calm, collected, and unwilling to get into an argument over your relationship with your Chinese or Filipina girlfriend (or wife). Some couples use humor (appropriately) to deal with cultural differences. It may just take some time to let family and community members come around. Give them space, and in this case not physical space – emotional space. Emotional space gives the person time to come around on their own terms. Once family members start to relate and connect to their new in-law as individuals; cultural issues fade away.
Putting it all together – finding the right woman from a different culture (Chinese, Filipina, or somewhere else in the world) online for chatting, an email pen pal or a future bride; it is important to communicate about culture and understand that integrating cultural traditions, values, and ideas into a solid state of “WE” will support a long and satisfying connection.