Responsibility – Just because of this word many of you will be scared to read this post…

As I sit in the Cherry Command and Control, I often hear lamentations of people who have been scammed, well, thats not quite right… wording here is key, I hear stories of people who ALLOW themselves to be scammed.

Now I can only guess what must transpire to get you give money to someone you have met only electronically, video chat I am afraid, is not a substitute for face to face.

So why would you? You who wouldn’t give a dime to a crippled homeless person in the street in the dead of winter all of a sudden agree to send THOUSANDS of dollars to someone you do not even know?

Take responsibility and begin to use common sense.  If you truly want a lasting relationship, perhaps you must look inward to make a change…?

Just a thought from the LoveGurus <3

Online Scams – Alert – Nigerian Men Targeting US Women – taken from Rueters

ORIGINAL ARTICLE – http://www.reuters.com/article/2014/07/08/us-malaysia-usa-scams-idUSKBN0FD2G920140708

(Reuters) – Hundreds of American women are being ensnared by Internet scammers based in Malaysia, with some losing over a quarter of a million dollars, as the country becomes an epicenter for online crime perpetrated by Africans, U.S. officials say.

The mostly Nigerian conmen, who enter Malaysia on student visas, take advantage of the country’s good Internet infrastructure to prey on lonely, middle-aged women, wooing them on dating websites before swindling their savings, they said.

The scams are more sophisticated than most Nigeria-based operations – which most Internet users have experienced at some time either via email or advertising – helped by Malaysia’s advanced banking system, which allows perpetrators to quickly set up accounts and receive international transfers.

U.S. officials say Malaysian police lack the resources and expertise to tackle the problem and have yet to launch a single prosecution of a case involving a U.S. victim.

Malaysian police were reported by local media last December as saying that the number of Internet scam cases more than doubled in 2013 with total losses of more than $11 million. A total of 476 Africans had been apprehended for suspected involvement, the report said.

The Malaysian police and the Nigerian embassy in Kuala Lumpur did not respond to Reuters’ request for comment. A spokesman for Nigeria’s Economic and Financial Crimes Commission said he was not aware of scammers operating in Malaysia, but added they were known to have international networks.

Tim Scherer, consul general at the U.S. embassy in Kuala Lumpur, told Reuters that complaints about such scams now made up more than 80 percent of inquiries to duty officers at the mission, with a dozen new cases reported every week.

Citizens of Australia, Canada and Europe had also been targeted, he said.

“These are not rich widows who are being preyed on, these are middle-class Americans who don’t have this kind of money to spare,” he said. “It can really transform their lives in a very terrible way.”

The U.S. embassy estimates that U.S. victims are losing several million dollars a year, with two women in the past 12 months losing more than $250,000 each. There are more than 600 cases a year, and the amount lost by each victim averages in the tens of thousands of dollars, it said.

The actual figure of total losses is probably far higher, Scherer said, because many victims are too embarrassed to come forward or do not know who to contact. He said the scammers were highly sophisticated, often grooming victims for months and using convincing techniques such as forging letters purportedly from the U.S. ambassador in Malaysia.

FAKE ROMANCE

Large teams of scammers typically trawl dating or Christian websites and contact middle-aged women, the U.S. officials said. They pretend to be a Western man who then gets into legal or business difficulties in Muslim-majority Malaysia.

One U.S. victim told Reuters she transferred a total of$260,000 to Malaysia, where the man who claimed to love her said he was being prevented from returning to the United States by Malaysian bureaucracy – which required hefty payments to negotiate.

The 59-year-old widow from Phoenix, Arizona, who declined to be identified, said she had gone heavily into debt to make the payments to “Charles”, and even flew to Malaysia in March to meet him. He never showed up, but a European woman claiming to be his lawyer managed to bilk another $25,000 out of the woman before she returned to Arizona.

Another victim, a women in her late 50s in the eastern United States, said she sent her life savings of $300,000 over two months to a Malaysia-based “American” man she met on dating site Match.com, three years after her husband died.

“I felt like I was in love with this man and we’d be moving forward with a life together real soon,” she told Reuters.

Match.com did not respond to a Reuters request for comment. Along with other major U.S.-based dating sites, it features prominent warnings about scammers, specifically telling users to be wary of people who say they are Americans based abroad.

STUDENT SCAM

The conmen have exploited Malaysia’s drive to become a global education hub, securing student visas to attend college, the U.S. officials said.

Malaysia has pursued a policy of attracting international students for more than a decade, allowing dozens of foreign colleges to set up Malaysian campuses.

Scherer said it was likely that many of the Nigerians in Malaysia were not genuine students. As of March, there were 9,146 Nigerians on student visas in Malaysia, the education ministry said, out of 123,000 overseas students in total.

“Once in the country as students, there’s very little effort to verify their studies,” Scherer said.

An official with Malaysia’s education ministry said that last year it tightened its vetting and tracking of overseas students.

“We are aware of problems with some international students, especially Nigerians,” the official said.

(Additional reporting by Tim Cocks in LAGOS; Editing by Jeremy Laurence)

Waves of Hurt- How You Can Help Your Filipino Loved Ones After Haiyan

Your Time, Love and Care are the Most Important Things You Can Share!

Your Time, Love and Care are the most important things you can share with your Filipina sweetheart in the aftermath of Typhoon Haiyan/Yolanda

By now it should come as no surprise that any natural disaster, regardless of where it happens in the world, will impact relationships and families. Whether you are just starting to navigate the Asian online dating experience, or have found that one true love – when tragedy strikes, everyone is affected.

Almost two weeks ago, typhoon Haiyan struck the Philippine islands, and other Asian communities. As we can all see from the news broadcasts, members of these communities are suffering immeasurable losses. Our hearts, thoughts, and prayers go out for them. During such difficult times, it is understandable that we all feel the desire to help and ease such pain. For the special someone in your life, the hurts are very close to home. For your Filipina girlfriend or fiancé residing in the West, when reading or watching distressing news from “home,” this information may bring about fits of arguments, tears, and even accusations of not caring enough.

At times, the best advice to help our loved ones is to make sure that we take care of ourselves first. While some would argue that such ideas are “selfish,” consider the perspective that you can’t help anyone if you are significantly impaired. She needs you to be strong for her, and her family right now.

Below are a list of ideas that may help you and your loved one (your Filipina or Asian girlfriend) weather the storm of distressing feelings during a natural disaster in her homeland.

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Be Careful When Dating Online- It Can Happen to Anyone!

The internet can be an indispensable resource in the search for true love and happiness. It
opens so many doors, presents otherwise impossible life pathways, and brings people  together that would have never found each other without it.

These doorways, however, also let in people with less innocent motives. There are people out there that wish to steal from and use others through the internet. They are clever and never straight-forward about their intent to do you harm. We’re here with a reminder to help you protect yourself from falling prey to an internet dating scam by keeping you
informed of some of the methods used by scammers.

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Cherry Blossoms: How to Date Online- SAFELY!

 

Hi Cherry Blossoms Friends!

You have a wonderful chance at dating Asian women or dating a wonderful man when you date online, but it’s important for you to consider your safety online, as well as the safety of your date.

There are vital steps that you should take when you’re online:

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