Hey Guys AND Gals,
Bob with the CB Staff here.
Do you ever wonder, “Why am I not getting responses to my online messages? What can I do to make my profile more attractive?”
Here are some of the things which will get you into trouble and reduce your chances of finding a great online date. These are TEN obvious things you should avoid doing, and TEN ways to fix them.
Fix ’em and improve your profile- a better profile means better results for YOU.
DON’T just rely on having a great photo: While it’s been proven that having a great photo is important, it’s also important to have some good text. If all you have is a great photo and haven’t committed at least a little time to putting your profile information together, it shows.
DO: Have at least one great photo AND spend a little time and put together a great profile- spend some time writing about what you like to do, who you are, and what you’re searching for in a partner.
DON’T use a photo that that’s old: This is one of the biggest online dating sins because once you start emailing back and forth a couple times you’re bound to end up on a video chat. What happens when you meet and you don’t look like the picture? What can you say about that?
DO: Use a current photo that shows you at your best. It can be a selfie, or have a friend take one of you. Action shots (you doing something you love, ATVing, fishing, diving) get a lot of attention.
DON’T get sloppy with spelling and grammar: If your spelling and grammar are horrible other members may think that you don’t care or, at worst, are not very smart. Sorry, it’s the truth.
DO: Take the time to use spell check, give your ad the once over or even have a friend look over your ad before you post. If you’ve already posted, it’s ok to go back and update it later.
DON’T lie. It can get very difficult to keep track of all the little fibs you tell when you make a habit out of it. If you talk a lot, or email a lot, it’ll show you to be untrustworthy.
DO: Be your real self. The real you is pretty good. After all, isn’t that who you want people to fall in love with?
DON’T write a novel in your profile. Nobody wants to know you’re gluten intolerant or you live with your brother right off the bat. It can be overwhelming to people who are viewing your profile.
DO: Leave a little bit of mystery. Save your life story for conversing later while you’re getting to know someone. You’ll have more to talk about.
DON’T make your entire profile a list. If your profile looks like a laundry list of “I Don’t Want to Meets”, you’re probably not going to get many responses.
DO: *Briefly* talk about the kind of person you are and the kind of person you’d like to meet. Focus on the positives.
DON’T be weird: Let’s face it. Coming on too strong can be a real turn off. Don’t bring up sex up right away. Be a little conservative in your first messages. For example, “I just want to cuddle and listen to your heartbeat” can be kind of scary for someone you’ve just met.
DO: Save the sweet (or sexy) stuff for when you get to know them better and they get to know you better.
DON’T get attached to someone just based on a photo and a profile, no matter how great the profile picture and text are. There is still a lot you don’t know and can’t know until you’ve had a chance to talk to them.
DO: Slow down and take your time to know the other person before you make a decision on if they’re the right one for you.
DON’T send money. It can be hard when you really think you found someone and they suddenly have a hardship and request money from you.
DO: No, just DON’T. Don’t send money for any reason, especially if you haven’t met them in person. Be sure to report their profile to our customer service team if they do.
DON’T be a arrogant or a grump. If all you do is talk about all the bad experiences you’ve had, people pick up on that. If you don’t like to chat or email with people who are constantly moping or bragging, what makes you think other people will want to, too?
DO: Be positive. Most people wanting to meet someone online are looking for someone who will be fun to be around. It’s ok to talk yourself up a little bit, but don’t stretch it too much.
From experience, we know that it’s hard to go wrong if you just stay honest. Write and talk in a mature and adult way. Be respectful of – it’ll keep things interesting.
here’s a lot of singles who are looking for love, just like you.
Cherry Blossoms Staff