Congratulations on 10 Years Together, Anthony & Emelyn!

This beautiful couple is celebrating 10 years together after meeting on Cherry Blossoms. We took some time to talk to Emelyn about their wonderful relationship, life together, and their suggestions for people seeking love online.

10th Wedding Anniversary May 18, 2017



CB:
So, how did you meet?

Emelyn:
We met on Cherry Blossoms on March 18, 2007. My hubby was already planning to visit Cebu,PH for an extended vacation, and thankfully i caught his attention before he began his travels. We talked and chatted every day for many hours, and I was waiting for him when we arrived at the airport on April 30, 2007 🙂

Our first pic together when we met in person April 30, 2007


Our Civil Wedding May 18, 2007


CB:
What drew you together?

Emelyn:
We seemed to often have the same thoughts before we even revealed them to each other. We both also have a silly sense of humor and always made each other laugh.


CB: What’s the secret to your successful marriage?

Emelyn:
Adapting to each other’s personality and finding new and fun things to do together. We appreciate each other’s unique traits.


CB:
Have you had any challenges?

Emelyn:
We lived abroad and moved to the USA, but then decided to move to another city in the USA a couple years later because of new opportunities. It was a stressful time but now it is working out very well.

Nami Island, South Korea June 2013

Christmas 2014, West Virginia, USA


CB:
What would you tell people who are looking for Love?

Emelyn:
Be social, active, and receptive to approaches from different people. You may learn something special about someone that leads you down a wonderful path to love and happiness.

There you have it! Cherry Blossoms wishes you both the very best and many more happy anniversaries!

This Will Shock You If You Are Interested In International Dating- International Love Scout.

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Hi Cherry Friends- this week’s blog is a guest article from our friends at International Love Scout.

Every man interested in meeting a foreign woman online quickly runs into articles claiming that all of the women on international dating sites are gold diggers and scam artists. If you ignore those negative stories eventually well-meaning friends, family, and co-workers will warn you about the same issues.

The overwhelming evidence is that these negative stories are overblown, but proving that is often difficult. For instance, there was a huge splash in the mainstream media a while back about a Reddit that asked men who had married women from international dating sites about their experiences. At least a dozen articles summarizing the Reddit came out in a variety of mainstream publications and the stories were universally negative, sometimes almost ludicrously negative.

One headline breathlessly promised, “Confessions of the men who paid thousands to marry mail-order brides… but who lived to regret it.” Another headline wailed that it was recording, “The Reddit Thread That Shocked the Nation.”

“Shocked the Nation,” yes, somewhere an over-caffeinated, underpaid headline writer actually typed that phrase. He was not writing talking about ISIS’s latest atrocity, the perils of flying coach, or the Falcons performance in the fourth quarter of the Super Bowl. He was writing about anonymously submitted stories on a Reddit who claimed to have married foreign women they met online and from friends, family, neighbors, and co-workers who observed these couples.

The stories were not exactly shocking. They repeated a lot of the negative stereotypes that have been repeated without much evidence in the mainstream media since the mid-1990s. The women were portrayed as cold hearted scammers. The articles quoted sad husband like the man who wrote that, “It surprised me how fake it all seems.”

Other comments slammed the men who romanced these women as losers like the person who claimed that, “’I mean there’s a reason these kinds of guys end up getting mail-ordered brides. Sometimes they are just super awkward, other times they are total d-bags.’”

To our friends over at International Love Scout these stories seemed hard to believe from their experiences. They have been covering news about international dating for almost a decade and they knew that the most recent academic studies examining international dating are extraordinarily positive. It struck them as odd until they realized that every article was quoting the same half dozen quotations out of literally thousands and thousands of comments. So, they did something none of the journalists for the mainstream media sources seem to have done: they read through the nearly 10,000 comments on the Reddit.

And, yes, they were shocked – shocked that most of comments were positive and shocked at the use of misleading selective quotations and prejudiced interpretations. The anti-international dating bias was shocking, because it was so blatant. Many of the negative comments were pulled out of longer quotations that were in fact positive and anything that did not make the men look like losers and the women like scamming gold diggers was ignored.

If you are worried about any of the negative stories you have read or you want information to pass along to concerned friends and family you should head over to International Love Scout and read article. It is a long article, but if you are serious about meeting a foreign woman Exposing Mainstream Media Bias Against International Dating is really worth the effort.

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CB here! We suggest you go and read the article over at International Love Scout, then head on over to Cherry Blossoms to make your dreams of love a reality!

Online Dating Advice: What to do if it’s not a Match?

Seriously, folks. This does happen. With so many different kinds of people doing online dating, you’re bound to come across someone who isn’t a perfect match. You might be looking for someone with a healthy lifestyle, maybe someone without kids, or even a certain religion.

So what do you do if they’re not a good match for you?

You can “ghost” them and just not respond. We don’t recommend this; it leaves the other person wondering if you got their message.

You could be rude and tell them, “NO! I don’t like you.” We don’t suggest this either. We encourage you to be sensitive to the other person’s feelings. It can be really hurtful and demoralizing to the other person to receive a message like that.

We suggest being kind and polite to everyone, even if you DON’T feel like you’re a dating match.
Here’s a sample to try: “Sorry, I don’t feel like we’re a good match. I wish you the best of luck in finding your perfect person!”

What if you’re not a good match for them?

If someone sends you a message saying that you’re not a good match for them, take it gracefully. Even if it’s a rude rejection, be the bigger person. Thank them for taking the time to respond to you and wish them well.

Respect their wishes- don’t keep messaging if they feel there isn’t a match. It’s rude to keep pushing it, especially if they’ve made their wishes known.

Move on! Believe it or not (and you should), there are thousands more single men and women who are looking for love on Cherry Blossoms. There ARE more people who DO match what you’re looking for.

If you’re on Cherry Blossoms (and you should be, if you’re looking for Asian Online Dating), take advantage of their automated matches and their advanced searches. This takes a lot of the leg work out of searching.

We hope to see you online!

Aloha,

CB Staff

Don’t do these things in China.

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While China has become more westernized, there are still some basic things you should and shouldn’t do while you’re there. These are just basics, but as long as you’re friendly and bring your best manners, you will get along fine and have a great time.  

 

Don’t be Late:

It can be seen as rude to be late. Always be on time or even a little early to meetings or dates.

 

Never Show Up Without a Gift   

If you’re meeting someone, it’s customary for both parties often exchange gifts.  For instance, if you’re meeting your fiancée’s family for the first time be aware that you’re expected to bring a gift.  Gifts are not usually opened until after you leave. If they do insist you open your gift, ask “Is it ok if I open it?”  

 

Special note: Don’t bring four gifts or clocks as gifts- the Chinese associate these with death and are considered unlucky.

 

Don’t Call People by Their First Names Only:

Unlike in the West, Chinese people don’t call each other by their first name. Let’s say a man is introduced to you as  “Lee Ming”.  You can safely address him as Mr. Lee not Mr. Ming, because the family name comes first.  As an example  Joe Smith is known as Smith Joe. This will be a little different if you’ve already got a close relationship with them, but let them say so first.

 

Avoid Public Displays of Affection:

Generally, public displays of affection (PDAs) are frowned upon.  Hand holding is becoming acceptable but play it by ear and ask if it’s ok.  Your girlfriend or fiancée will appreciate the gesture.

 

Never let someone else pay the Bill without saying, “No, please let me.”

Let’s say you go out to a meal in China. It’s time to pay for the meal and your dining companion says, “I’ve got the bill.”  It’s considered good manners to argue and fight for the right to pay the bill. Showing eagerness to pay the bill is just good manners. Be willing to go back and  forth a few times with the “No, let me” before it’s settled.

 

Don’t Take The First  “No Thank You”  Literally

People in China will almost always automatically refuse things like having a drink or going out for food automatically, even if they are really hungry or thirsty.   In China a  good guest is supposed to refuse at least once, so you as a good host should always offer at least two or three times.

Never Accept Food, Drinks , or Gifts Without Refusing a Couple Times.

Likewise, don’t immediately accept anything offered.  Chinese people will expect you as a guest to refuse at least once.

Don’t Brag

 

Chinese people are humble and polite. Let’s say have dinner and give your host a compliment like “That was the best dinner ever!” Your host will say, “No, that was really bad.”  They’re not being rude, just humble and polite.

 

So be humble too. Keeping the  boasting to a minimum will help keep things from getting awkward. Be modest about yourself: if someone pays you a compliment , be humble and say something like “No, not at all” or “I’m not good at it, but thank you for saying so.”

 

We hope this brief guide comes in handy, especially if you’re going to China to visit a Fiancee or girlfriend (or even meeting her family!).

 

Looking to date a Chinese girl? Find her on Cherry Blossoms <3

 

Etiquette links:

 

http://www.chinahighlights.com/travelguide/guidebook/etiquette.htm

http://www.commisceo-global.com/country-guides/china-guide

10 Chinese Etiquette Tips

Chinese Travel Information

Updated 04/07/2017.

The Insider’s Guide to a Winning International Online Dating Profile

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Creating an online dating profile can be a scary prospect. While the idea of long distance dating and dating Asian women may sound exciting, it’s a virtual guarantee that you’ll be destined for failure if you don’t spend some time upfront on this important task.

You may be the greatest guy in the world and have a lot to offer, but online dating requires that you put your strengths in writing and stand out from the crowd. Sounds suspiciously like a job interview, doesn’t it? While there are similarities, this is so much more fun if you do it right! Consider these key profile elements as you get started:

Grab ‘Em Fast!

One of the first things that people are going to see is the first line in your profile. It would be a good idea to spend some time making this distinctive and intriguing. Some people like to use song lyrics for headlines while others throw out a bit of humor. Whichever way you choose to go with it, keep it clean and non-controversial and you should be just fine.

Details Please

It should come as no surprise that the profiles that attract the most attention are the most well-written ones. This doesn’t mean that you need to be a professional writer or that you should hire one to excel here.

What you will need to do is set yourself apart from the “I like music and I love to laugh” crowd. While it’s ok to share that you enjoy a good time, provide specific examples of hobbies or activities that you appreciate so that readers can get a better sense of who you are.  For example, try “I like jazz music and eating Thai food”. You get the idea.

When writing your profile, be clear about your objectives and avoid any impulse to either be dishonest or negative in any way. Tell the ladies what you want! “I want to meet a nice woman for romance and love.”

A Picture is Worth…

Well, it’s worth a lot! To begin with, having some good images on your profile is worth not having your profile automatically excluded from searches as many women simply won’t even glimpse a profile that that doesn’t have a picture. As a general rule, posting photos will your profile will get you ten times as many responses as a profile without them! As your photos could be one of the most important elements of your dating profile, here are few tips to make sure you’re on the right track:

  •         For your main profile photo, choose a picture of just you, so there is no guesswork involved.

 

  •         Avoid using your computer’s webcam for photos as these generally turn out pretty dreadful.

 

  •         Post images that show your friendly side, with a normal and easy smile.

 

  •         Include at least two photos and preferably four or more.

 

  •         It’s not considered a good idea to post pictures of yourself with the opposite sex, even if is your sister! Many women find this a turn off and it can be very confusing. More confusion leads to less responses.

There is plenty of conflicting advice about international online dating that can make things confusing for someone new. While the stigma of long distance dating has virtually disappeared, if you want to meet Asian women online, you’ll need to start by working on your profile. If you use the pointers we’ve given you here, you will stand out from the crowd and have the experience you desire. That’s a promise!

 

Edit: Updated 04/07/2017 with some new resources for you!

How to set up a great online dating profile!
10 Online Dating Do’s and Don’ts
Advice for Dating Asian Women