Hi Cherry Friends- this week’s blog is a guest article from our friends at International Love Scout.
Every man interested in meeting a foreign woman online quickly runs into articles claiming that all of the women on international dating sites are gold diggers and scam artists. If you ignore those negative stories eventually well-meaning friends, family, and co-workers will warn you about the same issues.
The overwhelming evidence is that these negative stories are overblown, but proving that is often difficult. For instance, there was a huge splash in the mainstream media a while back about a Reddit that asked men who had married women from international dating sites about their experiences. At least a dozen articles summarizing the Reddit came out in a variety of mainstream publications and the stories were universally negative, sometimes almost ludicrously negative.
One headline breathlessly promised, “Confessions of the men who paid thousands to marry mail-order brides… but who lived to regret it.” Another headline wailed that it was recording, “The Reddit Thread That Shocked the Nation.”
“Shocked the Nation,” yes, somewhere an over-caffeinated, underpaid headline writer actually typed that phrase. He was not writing talking about ISIS’s latest atrocity, the perils of flying coach, or the Falcons performance in the fourth quarter of the Super Bowl. He was writing about anonymously submitted stories on a Reddit who claimed to have married foreign women they met online and from friends, family, neighbors, and co-workers who observed these couples.
The stories were not exactly shocking. They repeated a lot of the negative stereotypes that have been repeated without much evidence in the mainstream media since the mid-1990s. The women were portrayed as cold hearted scammers. The articles quoted sad husband like the man who wrote that, “It surprised me how fake it all seems.”
Other comments slammed the men who romanced these women as losers like the person who claimed that, “’I mean there’s a reason these kinds of guys end up getting mail-ordered brides. Sometimes they are just super awkward, other times they are total d-bags.’”
To our friends over at International Love Scout these stories seemed hard to believe from their experiences. They have been covering news about international dating for almost a decade and they knew that the most recent academic studies examining international dating are extraordinarily positive. It struck them as odd until they realized that every article was quoting the same half dozen quotations out of literally thousands and thousands of comments. So, they did something none of the journalists for the mainstream media sources seem to have done: they read through the nearly 10,000 comments on the Reddit.
And, yes, they were shocked – shocked that most of comments were positive and shocked at the use of misleading selective quotations and prejudiced interpretations. The anti-international dating bias was shocking, because it was so blatant. Many of the negative comments were pulled out of longer quotations that were in fact positive and anything that did not make the men look like losers and the women like scamming gold diggers was ignored.
If you are worried about any of the negative stories you have read or you want information to pass along to concerned friends and family you should head over to International Love Scout and read article. It is a long article, but if you are serious about meeting a foreign woman Exposing Mainstream Media Bias Against International Dating is really worth the effort.