What Men Think About Your Make-up/War Paint…?!?!

Big Mahalo and Aloha to Julie Spira and the Huffington post for Sharing!  Read orginal article HERE.

When it comes to dating, more women like to emulate the celebrities that shine on the red carpet to try to get the guy.

In a recent survey by online dating site Zoosk, 1850 male daters were asked to compare photos of Kim Kardashian, Beyonce, Jessica Simpson, and Jennifer Lawrence, with and without makeup.

Surprisingly so, the majority of the guys stated that they preferred Jessica Alba, makeup free (77%) as compared to giving the thumbs up for Kim Kardashian, all glammed up. (23%).

While viewing photos of Jennifer Lawrence made up in American Hustle as compared to a natural look, Zooskers voted in favor of the natural look (54%) as compared to the American Hustle photo with bright red lipstick (46%).

When asked if Jessica Simpson looked better with or without makeup on, 57% of the men preferred her natural look.

So how does this relate to real life dating and the male thoughts on hair and makeup? The survey shows that men prefer a natural look with the women they are dating. Fifty-seven percent of men gave the thumbs down to red lipstick and 67% weren’t fond of dark eye shadow.

When it comes to hairstyle, 81% voted for a relaxed and natural look, with only 9% preferring pin-straight hair. Does this mean it’s time to toss out the flat iron?

Now let’s take a digital look at how men select women while viewing thousands of online dating profiles.

Zoosk’s data shows the complete opposite viewpoint to hair and makeup, where men were dramatically selecting women wearing more makeup, more eye shadow, and more lipstick in their photos.

Here are some numbers worth blinking a digital eye to:

Women who wear eye makeup receive 139% more first messages than women who don’t.

Men are 65% more likely to want to meet a woman if she wears eye makeup in her profile picture.

Women who wear lipstick in their profile photo get 119% more first messages than those who don’t.

Men are 38% more likely to want to meet a woman if she’s wearing lipstick in her profile photo.

Woman wearing blush receive 24% more first messages than those who don’t.

Men are 19% more likely to want to meet a woman if she’s wearing blush than if she’s not.

All in all, women who wore some form of makeup received more than three times as many messages as those who didn’t.

It may not be time to dig out your prom or glamour shots, but taking the extra time to look your best and pucker up with a lip plumper for your dating profile photos, instead of posting the ‘selfie’ from last night’s party, might be a wise idea.

After all, you’re auditioning for the job of a lifetime; possible girlfriend or wife.

Julie Spira is an Online Dating Expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She was an early adopter of the Internet and has been helping singles on the dating scene for two decades. For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

Online Scams – Alert – Nigerian Men Targeting US Women – taken from Rueters

ORIGINAL ARTICLE – http://www.reuters.com/article/2014/07/08/us-malaysia-usa-scams-idUSKBN0FD2G920140708

(Reuters) – Hundreds of American women are being ensnared by Internet scammers based in Malaysia, with some losing over a quarter of a million dollars, as the country becomes an epicenter for online crime perpetrated by Africans, U.S. officials say.

The mostly Nigerian conmen, who enter Malaysia on student visas, take advantage of the country’s good Internet infrastructure to prey on lonely, middle-aged women, wooing them on dating websites before swindling their savings, they said.

The scams are more sophisticated than most Nigeria-based operations – which most Internet users have experienced at some time either via email or advertising – helped by Malaysia’s advanced banking system, which allows perpetrators to quickly set up accounts and receive international transfers.

U.S. officials say Malaysian police lack the resources and expertise to tackle the problem and have yet to launch a single prosecution of a case involving a U.S. victim.

Malaysian police were reported by local media last December as saying that the number of Internet scam cases more than doubled in 2013 with total losses of more than $11 million. A total of 476 Africans had been apprehended for suspected involvement, the report said.

The Malaysian police and the Nigerian embassy in Kuala Lumpur did not respond to Reuters’ request for comment. A spokesman for Nigeria’s Economic and Financial Crimes Commission said he was not aware of scammers operating in Malaysia, but added they were known to have international networks.

Tim Scherer, consul general at the U.S. embassy in Kuala Lumpur, told Reuters that complaints about such scams now made up more than 80 percent of inquiries to duty officers at the mission, with a dozen new cases reported every week.

Citizens of Australia, Canada and Europe had also been targeted, he said.

“These are not rich widows who are being preyed on, these are middle-class Americans who don’t have this kind of money to spare,” he said. “It can really transform their lives in a very terrible way.”

The U.S. embassy estimates that U.S. victims are losing several million dollars a year, with two women in the past 12 months losing more than $250,000 each. There are more than 600 cases a year, and the amount lost by each victim averages in the tens of thousands of dollars, it said.

The actual figure of total losses is probably far higher, Scherer said, because many victims are too embarrassed to come forward or do not know who to contact. He said the scammers were highly sophisticated, often grooming victims for months and using convincing techniques such as forging letters purportedly from the U.S. ambassador in Malaysia.


Large teams of scammers typically trawl dating or Christian websites and contact middle-aged women, the U.S. officials said. They pretend to be a Western man who then gets into legal or business difficulties in Muslim-majority Malaysia.

One U.S. victim told Reuters she transferred a total of$260,000 to Malaysia, where the man who claimed to love her said he was being prevented from returning to the United States by Malaysian bureaucracy – which required hefty payments to negotiate.

The 59-year-old widow from Phoenix, Arizona, who declined to be identified, said she had gone heavily into debt to make the payments to “Charles”, and even flew to Malaysia in March to meet him. He never showed up, but a European woman claiming to be his lawyer managed to bilk another $25,000 out of the woman before she returned to Arizona.

Another victim, a women in her late 50s in the eastern United States, said she sent her life savings of $300,000 over two months to a Malaysia-based “American” man she met on dating site Match.com, three years after her husband died.

“I felt like I was in love with this man and we’d be moving forward with a life together real soon,” she told Reuters.

Match.com did not respond to a Reuters request for comment. Along with other major U.S.-based dating sites, it features prominent warnings about scammers, specifically telling users to be wary of people who say they are Americans based abroad.


The conmen have exploited Malaysia’s drive to become a global education hub, securing student visas to attend college, the U.S. officials said.

Malaysia has pursued a policy of attracting international students for more than a decade, allowing dozens of foreign colleges to set up Malaysian campuses.

Scherer said it was likely that many of the Nigerians in Malaysia were not genuine students. As of March, there were 9,146 Nigerians on student visas in Malaysia, the education ministry said, out of 123,000 overseas students in total.

“Once in the country as students, there’s very little effort to verify their studies,” Scherer said.

An official with Malaysia’s education ministry said that last year it tightened its vetting and tracking of overseas students.

“We are aware of problems with some international students, especially Nigerians,” the official said.

(Additional reporting by Tim Cocks in LAGOS; Editing by Jeremy Laurence)

Top Ten words for your Profiles!


This is taken (excerpts) from a Post by Poona Bell written for the Huffington Post UK – Thanks Poona!

The Huffington Post UK  |  By Posted: 15/05/2014 16:38 BST

Writing your online dating profile is like crossing the cracks of doom on the way to Mordor. Should you let your real personality rip or keep it polite and sophisticated? Should you opt for cliche or risk freaking out the other person with your sense of humour?

Speaking of sense of GSOH, should you say that you’re funny or make a joke that may or may not go down like a lead balloon?

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The study found that men who mentioned some form of physical fitness, or described themselves as perceptive, passionate or optimistic all saw more traffic to their profile.

Conversely, women describing themselves as sweet, ambitious or thoughtful were more likely to see men start up conversations with them.

Interestingly the word ‘funny’ was a winner with both sexes ranking it sixth out of the top ten list, showing there are some things men and women do agree on.

Physically fit or perceptive men attracted between 60-70% more interest from women who wanted to get to know them better; whereby sweet, ambitious or funny women saw between 20-45% more approaches.

The study also revealed that women are more interested in what men have to say for themselves, not just their looks. They are more likely to consider a man based on his description rather than his picture.

Top 10 words men should use:

1. Physically fit (69%)
2. Ambitious (64%)
3. Perceptive (63%)
4. Passionate (54%)
5. Optimistic (44%)
6. Funny (38%)
7. Spontaneous (33%)
8. Thoughtful (21%)
9. Affectionate (17%)
10. Outgoing (+17%)

Top 10 words women should use:

1.Sweet (46%)
2. Ambitious (39%)
3. Thoughtful (30%)
4. Spontaneous (30%)
5. Physically fit (22%)
6. Funny (21%)
7. Outgoing (19%)
8. Optimistic (17%)
9. Hard-working (17%)
10. Passionate (16%)


As always, remember, the truth shall set you free.  That is by far the most important and useful tool you have at your disposal.  It is better to live alone than to everyday try to keep up a lie.  Live this way and you will never have to live alone if companionship is what you seek!  Love and Aloha from your friendly Neighborhood Blossoms Blogger <3

Adjustment of Status (AOS), What next after I file?! (Men)

Youre a gent, afterall, we all at least want to be gentlemen right (=]), you filed for your AOS, what now….

Im so happy you asked…

Shortly after you file the Adjustment of Status (AOS) you will receive a notice of receipt from USCIS for the I-485. This is a very important document as it proves that your wife’s AOS has been filed and it is pending. Keep the original in a safe and have her carry a copy.


1)      Within 30 days from filing you will receive Notices of Action for the Adjustment of Status, Employment Authorization and Advance Parole (temporary travel, if applied for).

2)      Within 60 days your wife will receive an appointment for biometrics (fingerprints) at a USCIS location near you for the Employment Authorization card.

3)      Within 30/60 days from biometrics she will receive the Employment Authorization Card (EAC).  With this card she can obtain her permanent social security card and accept employment legally. Recently USCIS has issued the EAC as a Combo Card valid for Employment and Advance Parole (temporary travel outside the USA). If so, the card will have printed at the bottom “Serves as Advance Parole.” Please scan/email us a copy of the card so we can confirm this information. Otherwise she will receive a separate Advance Parole card within 3 to 4 months from filing.

4)      Within 6 to 8 months she will receive a Notice of Action for your appointment with USCIS for Green Card approval. Both of you need to attend. The card will be mailed shortly thereafter and will be valid for 2 years. You will have to remove the conditional status within the 90 days before expiration. In some cases USCIS has waived the requirement of the interview. If this is so for you, they will notify you in writing and your Green card will be mailed to you.


Please scan/email us all notices of action received and do not hesitate to contact us if you have any questions.


Thank you.

US Visa Support Staff