What to do if it’s not a Match?

Seriously, folks. This does happen. With so many different kinds of people doing online dating, you’re bound to come across someone who isn’t a perfect match. You might be looking for someone with a healthy lifestyle, maybe someone without kids, or even a certain religion.

So what do you do if they’re not a good match for you?

You can “ghost” them and just not respond. We don’t recommend this; it leaves the other person wondering if you got their message.

You could be rude and tell them, “NO! I don’t like you.” We don’t suggest this either. We encourage you to be sensitive to the other person’s feelings. It can be really hurtful and demoralizing to the other person to receive a message like that.

We suggest being kind and polite to everyone, even if you DON’T feel like you’re a dating match.
Here’s a sample to try: “Sorry, I don’t feel like we’re a good match. I wish you the best of luck in finding your perfect person!”

What if you’re not a good match for them?

If someone sends you a message saying that you’re not a good match for them, take it gracefully. Even if it’s a rude rejection, be the bigger person. Thank them for taking the time to respond to you and wish them well.

Respect their wishes- don’t keep messaging if they feel there isn’t a match. It’s rude to keep pushing it, especially if they’ve made their wishes known.

Move on! Believe it or not (and you should), there are thousands more single men and women who are looking for love on Cherry Blossoms. There ARE more people who DO match what you’re looking for.

If you’re on Cherry Blossoms (and you should be, if you’re looking for Asian Online Dating), take advantage of their automated matches and their advanced searches. This takes a lot of the leg work out of searching.

We hope to see you online!

Aloha,

CB Staff

What To Do In China

 

 

While China has become more westernized, there are still some basic things you should and shouldn’t do while you’re there. These are just basics, but as long as you’re friendly and bring your best manners, you will get along fine and have a great time. Nevertheless, knowing what not to do in China can be helpful. 

 

Be On Time:

It can be seen as rude to be late. Always be on time or even a little early to meetings or dates.

 

Try To Show Up With A Gift  

If you’re meeting someone, it’s customary for both parties often exchange gifts.  For instance, if you’re meeting your fiancée’s family for the first time be aware that you’re expected to bring a gift.  Gifts are not usually opened until after you leave. If they do insist you open your gift, ask “Is it ok if I open it?”  

 

Special note: Don’t bring four gifts or clocks as gifts- the Chinese associate these with death and are considered unlucky.

 

What Name Should You Call Them?:

Unlike in the West, Chinese people don’t call each other by their first name. Let’s say a man is introduced to you as  “Lee Ming”.  You can safely address him as Mr. Lee not Mr. Ming, because the family name comes first.  As an example  Joe Smith is known as Smith Joe. This will be a little different if you’ve already got a close relationship with them, but let them say so first.

 

About Public Displays Of Affection:

Generally, public displays of affection (PDAs) are frowned upon.  Hand holding is becoming acceptable but play it by ear and ask if it’s ok.  Your girlfriend or fiancée will appreciate the gesture.

 

Never let someone else pay the Bill without saying, “No, please let me.”

Let’s say you go out to a meal in China. It’s time to pay for the meal and your dining companion says, “I’ve got the bill.”  It’s considered good manners to argue and fight for the right to pay the bill. Showing eagerness to pay the bill is just good manners. Be willing to go back and  forth a few times with the “No, let me” before it’s settled.

 

Don’t Take The First  “No Thank You”  Literally

People in China will almost always automatically refuse things like having a drink or going out for food automatically, even if they are really hungry or thirsty.   In China a  good guest is supposed to refuse at least once, so you as a good host should always offer at least two or three times.

Never Accept Food, Drinks , or Gifts Without Refusing a Couple Times.

Likewise, don’t immediately accept anything offered.  Chinese people will expect you as a guest to refuse at least once.

Should You Brag?:

Chinese people are humble and polite. Let’s say have dinner and give your host a compliment like “That was the best dinner ever!” Your host will say, “No, that was really bad.”  They’re not being rude, just humble and polite. So be humble too. Keeping the  boasting to a minimum will help keep things from getting awkward. Be modest about yourself: if someone pays you a compliment , be humble and say something like “No, not at all” or “I’m not good at it, but thank you for saying so.”

We hope this brief guide comes in handy, especially if you’re going to China to visit a Fiancee or girlfriend (or even meeting her family!).

Looking to date a Chinese girl? Find her on Cherry Blossoms <3

 

Etiquette links:

http://www.chinahighlights.com/travelguide/guidebook/etiquette.htm

http://www.commisceo-global.com/country-guides/china-guide

10 Chinese Etiquette Tips

Chinese Travel Information

 

Guide To Make A Great Online Dating Profile

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Creating an online dating profile can be a scary prospect. While the idea of long distance dating and dating Asian women may sound exciting, it’s a virtual guarantee that you’ll be destined for failure if you don’t spend some time upfront on this important task.

You may be the greatest guy in the world and have a lot to offer, but online dating requires that you put your strengths in writing, and stand out from the crowd. Sounds suspiciously like a job interview, doesn’t it? While there are similarities, this is so much more fun if you do it right! Consider these key profile elements as you get started:

Grab ‘Em Fast!

One of the first things that people are going to see is the first line in your profile. You want to get someones attention so it would be a good idea to spend some time making this distinctive and intriguing. Some people like to use song lyrics for headlines while others throw out a bit of humor. Whichever way you choose to go with it, keep it clean and non-controversial and you should be just fine.

Details Please

It should come as no surprise that the profiles that attract the most attention are the most well-written ones. This doesn’t mean that you need to be a professional writer or that you should hire one to excel here.

What you will need to do is set yourself apart from the “I like music and I love to laugh” crowd. While it’s ok to share that you enjoy a good time, provide specific examples of hobbies or activities that you appreciate so that readers can get a better sense of who you are.  For example, try “I like jazz music and eating Thai food”. You get the idea.

When writing your profile, be clear about your objectives and avoid any impulse to either be dishonest or negative in any way. Tell the ladies what you want! “I want to meet a nice woman for romance and love.”

A Picture is Worth…

Well, it’s worth a lot! To begin with, having some good images on your profile is worth not having your profile automatically excluded from searches as many women simply won’t even glimpse a profile that that doesn’t have a picture. As a general rule, posting photos will your profile will get you ten times as many responses as a profile without them! As your photos could be one of the most important elements of your dating profile, here are few tips to make sure you’re on the right track:

  •         For your main profile photo, choose a picture of just you, so there is no guesswork involved.

 

  •         Avoid using your computer’s webcam for photos as these generally turn out pretty dreadful.

 

  •         Post images that show your friendly side, with a normal and easy smile.

 

  •         Include at least two photos and preferably four or more.

 

  •         It’s not considered a good idea to post pictures of yourself with the opposite sex, even if is your sister! Many women find this a turn off and it can be very confusing. More confusion leads to less responses.

There is plenty of conflicting advice about international online dating that can make things confusing for someone new. While the stigma of long distance dating has virtually disappeared, if you want to meet Asian women online, you’ll need to start by working on your profile. If you use the pointers we’ve given you here, you will stand out from the crowd and have the experience you desire. That’s a promise!

How to set up a great online dating profile!
10 Online Dating Do’s and Don’ts
Advice for Dating Asian Women

10 Dating Profile Turn-Offs Asian Women Notice

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It sure seems like online dating comes naturally for a few but it might be a struggle for nearly everyone else. A lot of guys have had great results on Cherry Blossoms, but if you’re wondering why your online dating profile isn’t pulling in the kind of responses you’re looking for– we have some ideas for you.

 

In most cases, creating a winning profile is more about what you shouldn’t include than what you should. Here are ten profile turnoffs that are bad news if you are interested in dating Asian women.

 

  1. Strange Photos

Let’s be honest here. Most Asian women are going to be turned off by any number of strange photos that men post on their Asian dating site profiles.

While a selfie is better than not having a photo, bathroom and gym selfies are not ok whether you are wearing a shirt or not. Old or blurry photos aren’t going to work either. Finally, women know when you post cropped pictures of yourself and your ex.

Anything other than a good, recent photo of yourself is a turnoff.

  1. Unkept Physical Appearance

Don’t be “That Guy”. A man who doesn’t care about his physical appearance isn’t very attractive to ladies. If you don’t care about how you look, this is usually going to carry through into other areas of your life. It makes a bad first impression.

Also, Asian women often prefer men who don’t have facial hair, so if you’re sporting one of those lumberjack beards you may have a tough time getting a response. Tidy up that beard!

 

  1. No Sense of Humor

Women love a man who has a sense of humor and especially one that can laugh at himself. If you’re taking life, and yourself, a little  too seriously this is going to be an ongoing issue.

 

It’s ok to be a “serious” type, but avoid the negative talk if you wish to attract Asian women.

 

  1. Lack of Confidence

Dating Asian women isn’t for the faint of heart. Studies have shown that women are turned on by confident men and turned off by meek ones. However, this doesn’t give you an excuse to brag it up- Your dating profile should exhibit signs of confidence, such as knowing what you like to do and having your own sense of self and style.

 

  1. Poor Spelling and Grammar

Not everyone has perfect grammar or won their school district’s spelling bee. That’s why most word processing programs have a spelling and grammar checking system built-in! Write your profile in MS Word or some other similar program and hit the “spell check” button.

 

No one expects you to have perfect spelling and grammar in your dating site profile, but it should be understandable, readable and coherent. This will especially help Asian ladies who are relying on translation software.

 

  1. Too Many Abbreviations

“Srry lol jk  omg ;P <3”

No joke, your dating profile isn’t a text message or a social media post. If you need to say “LOL” or post an emoticon more than once, it’s too many times. Not everyone understands abbreviations and texting slang, especially if English isn’t their first language.

Write in full sentences and save the smilies and hearts for later.

 

  1. An Inaccurate Profile

A pretty massive turnoff on men’s dating profiles is inaccuracy. To put it more clearly, don’t lie.

 

Don’t stretch the truth about your age, height, weight, or marital status. Don’t make up hobbies to try to sound more interesting. If you are really looking to seriously date Asian women, hopefully, you want to find someone who likes you for who you are.

 

  1. Too Much Information (TMI)

A dating profile is not the place to lay out your latest sob story or to trash your ex. Depressing stories aren’t sexy and, if you’re angry and trashing your ex, it doesn’t cast you in a good light.

Keep it short and sweet: be positive and focus on the kind of person you’d like to meet instead of dwelling on the past.

  1. Generic Terms and Adjectives

We all think that we’re “nice” and “funny” but this pretty generic when it comes to a dating profile. If you’re interested in dating Asian women, be more specific about your background, your hobbies, and the adventurous things that you enjoy doing.

 

Example: “I like motocross and horror films. My favorite movie is Titanic.” Ok, don’t use these exact words (unless you’re really into those things). Giving specifics will give you something to talk about.

 

  1. Being a Jerk

A dating profile is not the place to objectify women by telling them how beautiful, intelligent, and physically fit they should be. Do NOT be degrading.

 

If your profile looks like this,“I’m looking for a perfect 10. She should be a doctor/model/great housekeeper–ALL AT THE SAME TIME!”, you might get a few hits, but more often than not, women will pass it by.

 

It’s a given that you’re probably looking for a certain type of woman on an Asian dating site. If this is you, that’s great, but don’t close yourself off to other opportunities.

 

The Takeaway?

Yes, it’s easy to meet Asian women online, especially at Cherry Blossoms. However, you’re still going to need to add a little polish on your profile if you’re looking to attract a special woman.

 

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Use Online Dating To Meet Potential Matches Worldwide.

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Online dating has changed drastically over the years. It seems everyone who is single is using online dating to find love. With more options on where to date it seems that middle aged adults, especially men, are looking overseas to find somebody special. Here at Cherry Blossoms we specialize mainly in Asian dating. Our clients are generally Western men looking to date Asian women. Dating online has changed the way people date and now the world is wide open to online dating, but we know there are a few ways to make it even easier.

Avoid these common mistakes when dating online:

1. Not filling out your profile completely. When you make your profile, do the best job you can. How you present yourself online is very important. Try to tell a funny story and show some photos of you doing activities you enjoy. Having a smile on your photo will get more people interested in your profile. Write a good profile just telling your story but don’t tell everything. Keep a little mystery to talk about later.

2. Not leaving your comfort zone. It may be uncomfortable, but nothing will happen unless you put yourself out there. You need to get out of your comfort zone and contact the women you think will be your best matches. Many people are afraid of getting hurt or running into scammers. Get out of your comfort zone and get the conversation started, take your time.

3. Telling lies. Lies are a huge “no no” online, and in any potential relationship. Be confident and honest in your interactions because there is no point in lying. By lying, even little white lies, you will break any bond of trust your date may have had in you. Honesty is the best policy here.

4. Not being proactive. If you wait for someone to find you, instead of looking for a online date yourself, it might never happen. Online dating has evolved to a point where you need to invest time and effort to find your match. Be proactive and actively search and communicate with your matches. Seriously, you miss 100% of the chances you don’t take.

5. Being too picky. Let’s be honest for men online dating and picking a match is based on just the photo a lot of the time. Don’t be to picky. Give potential dates a chance even if they’re not the right height or your “Perfect 10”. The worst that can happen is that you don’t click and you move on. The best case scenario? You find a friend and maybe a lover.

6. You fall in love too soon. When you communicate with someone online, it’s natural to be honest and give trust because you assume they’re a good person, just like you. It’s important to be safe when meeting people online. Take it slow and be mindful about what the other person says and does. It’s ok to not trust someone right away- after all, you’ve just met them! Never send money: we can’t stress this enough. Don’t send money to anyone you haven’t met in person. Report anyone who asks for money.

Don’t give up. I see so many people just give online dating a few days. They get discouraged when they don’t get an immediate response, but don’t put any effort into their profile message, or having a photo.

Online dating does take effort and, I promise you, if you put the effort in, there will be lots of excitement. I am confident that if you keep getting out there and engaging members you will find your match.

Good Luck and Happy Online Dating,

Bob
CB Staff

Also see:
“Cherry Blossoms Success Stories”
10 Do’s and 10 Don’ts to Remember When Online Dating
More Marriage-Minded Single Asian Women are on Cherry Blossoms