10 Do’s and 10 Don’ts to Remember When Online Dating

Hey Guys AND Gals,

 

Bob with the CB Staff here.

 

Do you ever wonder, “Why am I not getting responses to my online messages? What can I do to make my profile more attractive?”

 

Here are some of the things which will get you into trouble and reduce your chances of finding  a great online date.  These are TEN obvious things you should avoid doing, and TEN ways to fix  them.

 

Fix ’em and improve your profile- a better profile means better results for YOU.

 

 DON’T just rely on having a great photo:  While it’s been proven that having a great photo is important, it’s also important to have some good text. If all you have is a great photo and haven’t committed at least a little time to putting your profile information together, it shows.  

 

DO: Have at least one great photo AND spend a little time and put together a great profile- spend some time writing about what you like to do, who you are, and what you’re searching for in a partner.

 

 DON’T use a photo that that’s old:  This is one of the biggest online dating sins because once you start emailing back and forth a couple times you’re bound to end up on a video chat. What happens when you meet and you don’t look like the picture? What can you say about that?

 

DO: Use a current photo that shows you at your best. It can be a selfie, or have a friend take one of you. Action shots (you doing something you love, ATVing, fishing, diving) get a lot of attention.

 

 DON’T get sloppy with spelling and grammar:  If your spelling and grammar are horrible other members may think that you don’t care or, at worst, are not very smart. Sorry, it’s the truth.

 

DO: Take the time to use spell check, give your ad the once over or even have a friend look over your ad  before you post. If you’ve already posted, it’s ok to go back and update it later.

 

DON’T lie.  It can get very difficult to keep track of all the little fibs you tell when you make a habit out of it. If you talk a lot, or email a lot, it’ll show you to be untrustworthy.  

 

DO: Be your real self. The real you is pretty good. After all, isn’t that who you want people to fall in love with?

 

DON’T write a novel in your profile. Nobody wants to know you’re gluten intolerant or you live with your brother right off the bat. It can be overwhelming to people who are viewing  your profile.

 

DO: Leave a little bit of mystery. Save your life story for conversing later while you’re getting to know someone. You’ll have more to talk about.

 

 DON’T make your entire profile a list. If your profile looks like a laundry list of “I Don’t Want to Meets”, you’re probably not going to get many responses.  

 

DO: *Briefly* talk about the kind of person you are and the kind of person you’d like to meet. Focus on the positives.

 

 DON’T be weird: Let’s face it. Coming on too strong can be a real turn off.  Don’t bring up sex up right away. Be a little conservative in your first messages.  For example, “I just want to cuddle and listen to your heartbeat” can be kind of scary for someone you’ve just met.

 

DO: Save the sweet (or sexy) stuff for when you get to know them better and they get to know you better.

 

DON’T get attached to someone just based on a photo and a profile, no matter how great the profile picture and text are. There is still a lot you don’t know and can’t know until you’ve had a chance to talk to them.

 

DO:  Slow down and take your time to know the other person before you make a decision on if they’re the right one for you.

 

DON’T send money.  It can be hard when you really think you found someone and they suddenly have a hardship and request money from you.  

 

DO: No, just DON’T. Don’t send money for any reason, especially if you haven’t met them in person. Be sure to report their profile to our customer service team if they do.

 

DON’T be a arrogant or a grump. If all you do is talk about all the bad experiences you’ve had, people pick up on that. If you don’t like to chat or email with people who are constantly moping or bragging, what makes you think other people will want to, too?

 

DO: Be positive. Most people wanting to meet someone online are looking for someone who will be fun to be around. It’s ok to talk yourself up a little bit, but don’t stretch it too much.

 

From experience, we know that it’s hard to go wrong if you just stay honest. Write and talk in a mature and adult way. Be respectful of – it’ll keep things interesting.

here’s a lot of singles  who are looking for love, just like you.

 

Aloha,

 

Bob

Cherry Blossoms Staff  

Six Basic Things: Get More Responses from Women!

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Six Basic Things to Get More Responses from Women

Hey Guys,

Bob here from the CB Staff.

I hate to keep mentioning these things again, but I feel like I need to drive this home.

These just seem to be some common problems and I am not sure why some guys don’t get them.

They’re easily fixed, too.

 

These are six BASIC things you can do to get more responses from women.

1. Use a good, current photo. Come on guys; this is basic. Post some good photos– no one wants to see you half-dressed or what you look like at your worst.

Seriously, have a friend take a good picture of you. If you don’t have any good pictures, try taking a selfie.

 

2. Check for spelling and grammar errors. Use spell check and give your profile the once over before you post it. When your profile is full of errors, it shows you don’t really care.

If you care about making a good first impression, take a little time to make your ad easy to read and understand.

 

3. Don’t be disrespectful to women. It’s okay to talk about what you are looking for in a woman. It’s not okay to tell the world that you don’t want a “princess”, “drama queen”, or a “chick with baggage”, etc.

Do you really think you’ll get positive responses if you focus on the negative?

Instead, write about the positive qualities you’re seeking in a woman: Things like “funny”, “faithful”, “down to earth”.

 

4. When you get message, answer in a timely fashion- even if it’s a “No.” If it’s no, be polite and say so. Don’t keep them dangling!

If it’s a yes, then respond appropriately. Start getting to know one another.

You DO need to answer in a timely fashion. No-one feels excited about a response that comes days, or even weeks, after they first contacted you.

 

5. Stay offline until you’re ready to move on. If you have some sort of ongoing relationship or or one that’s over but you’re not over it yet, stay offline until it’s completely done.

Men, especially, always seem to be in a big rush to start a relationship right away after their previous relationship has just ended.

Make sure you’re emotionally ready before going out and starting a new relationship.

 

6. Do not talk about sex in your first few contacts online. Instead, play it by ear and take it slow.

Don’t start a conversation by sending sexy pictures or hints of how good you are in bed. Try getting to know each other a little better before talking about sex.

 

I guarantee it will get you a lot more responses.

Basics, guys. Basics. Follow these guidelines and get on your way to meeting women online.

 

Aloha,
Bob
CB Staff

10 Reasons to Date Asian Women From Foreign Countries

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Hey Friends,

 

I see a lot of articles come across my desk, and one of these was the article below. This article has some rather outdated ideas about the Top 10  Reasons to Date Asian Women and I was going to throw it in the trash heap.  

But you know, there is some truth in each one of these 10 reasons.  Take number one for example: Asian women are beautiful!

So, give it a read- your take away might be a little different. You may agree, you may disagree, you might even get a good laugh. Each of us men will be able to see different truths in each of these reasons to date Asian women. Some of us may even find that the Asian women we’re dating have all the reasons mentioned.

 

 Bob,

 CB Staff

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What Makes Great Online Dating Site Profile Photos?

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Hey everybody,

 

I was just reading a new study that show why some online dating profile pictures work and some don’t.   This study makes total sense when you think about it; what men and women like in a profile photo are very different.   

 

This study  discovered women like photos of men who show pride and confidence.  Pride and confidence will make you seem more masculine. I am not talking about a picture of you with your shirt off and flexing your muscles or in the bathroom mirror -in our experience these will actually decrease your chances of successfully dating online. Guys,  I am talking about photo of you dressed nicely, smiling, and  looking directly into the camera. Setting is important too:  we’ve noticed women seem to prefer photos of men taken outdoors.

 

Don’t be afraid to ask a friend for help taking pictures. While  men don’t seem to mind selfies on a woman’s profile, women tend to see men posting selfies in a dating profile as being vain.

 

Ladies! Men, on the other hand, preferred photos of women who looked “happy and approachable”.  Be sure to smile! Several studies have shown that the left side of the face is more expressive- so show your left side when taking photos.

 

Consensus here at CB is that you want to dress a little on the conservative side as photos that are too provocative can lead to the wrong kind of attention. Wear some bright colors and outfits that highlight your natural features.

 

Don’t put pictures of yourself with your exes or children in profile pictures. These are important details (if you’ve been divorced, if you have children) but your profile should be about YOU. Share this information on your personal ad; you can and should be upfront about having kids or being previously married.

Guys AND Gals-this is the most important part.

Put on a current picture.   Once you meet someone online it will be a short time before you’re video chatting and it will be hard to explain if you look differently from your profile photo.   Always keep your photos and profile real  and remember the right person will come along and accept you for who you are. Meeting online and having long distance relationships can work.

 

Billy

Cherry Blossoms  Customer Service

PS- It’s quick and easy to upload some great photos on Cherry Blossoms. Do it today! If you’re having issues uploading your pictures, please email them to office@blossoms.com. We will help you get them posted.

Source.

http://www.metronews.ca/news/edmonton/2016/02/29/study-analyzes-why-some-dating-profile-pics-work.html