What to do if it’s not a Match?

Seriously, folks. This does happen. With so many different kinds of people doing online dating, you’re bound to come across someone who isn’t a perfect match. You might be looking for someone with a healthy lifestyle, maybe someone without kids, or even a certain religion.

So what do you do if they’re not a good match for you?

You can “ghost” them and just not respond. We don’t recommend this; it leaves the other person wondering if you got their message.

You could be rude and tell them, “NO! I don’t like you.” We don’t suggest this either. We encourage you to be sensitive to the other person’s feelings. It can be really hurtful and demoralizing to the other person to receive a message like that.

We suggest being kind and polite to everyone, even if you DON’T feel like you’re a dating match.
Here’s a sample to try: “Sorry, I don’t feel like we’re a good match. I wish you the best of luck in finding your perfect person!”

What if you’re not a good match for them?

If someone sends you a message saying that you’re not a good match for them, take it gracefully. Even if it’s a rude rejection, be the bigger person. Thank them for taking the time to respond to you and wish them well.

Respect their wishes- don’t keep messaging if they feel there isn’t a match. It’s rude to keep pushing it, especially if they’ve made their wishes known.

Move on! Believe it or not (and you should), there are thousands more single men and women who are looking for love on Cherry Blossoms. There ARE more people who DO match what you’re looking for.

If you’re on Cherry Blossoms (and you should be, if you’re looking for Asian Online Dating), take advantage of their automated matches and their advanced searches. This takes a lot of the leg work out of searching.

We hope to see you online!

Aloha,

CB Staff

Guide To Make A Great Online Dating Profile

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Creating an online dating profile can be a scary prospect. While the idea of long distance dating and dating Asian women may sound exciting, it’s a virtual guarantee that you’ll be destined for failure if you don’t spend some time upfront on this important task.

You may be the greatest guy in the world and have a lot to offer, but online dating requires that you put your strengths in writing, and stand out from the crowd. Sounds suspiciously like a job interview, doesn’t it? While there are similarities, this is so much more fun if you do it right! Consider these key profile elements as you get started:

Grab ‘Em Fast!

One of the first things that people are going to see is the first line in your profile. You want to get someones attention so it would be a good idea to spend some time making this distinctive and intriguing. Some people like to use song lyrics for headlines while others throw out a bit of humor. Whichever way you choose to go with it, keep it clean and non-controversial and you should be just fine.

Details Please

It should come as no surprise that the profiles that attract the most attention are the most well-written ones. This doesn’t mean that you need to be a professional writer or that you should hire one to excel here.

What you will need to do is set yourself apart from the “I like music and I love to laugh” crowd. While it’s ok to share that you enjoy a good time, provide specific examples of hobbies or activities that you appreciate so that readers can get a better sense of who you are.  For example, try “I like jazz music and eating Thai food”. You get the idea.

When writing your profile, be clear about your objectives and avoid any impulse to either be dishonest or negative in any way. Tell the ladies what you want! “I want to meet a nice woman for romance and love.”

A Picture is Worth…

Well, it’s worth a lot! To begin with, having some good images on your profile is worth not having your profile automatically excluded from searches as many women simply won’t even glimpse a profile that that doesn’t have a picture. As a general rule, posting photos will your profile will get you ten times as many responses as a profile without them! As your photos could be one of the most important elements of your dating profile, here are few tips to make sure you’re on the right track:

  •         For your main profile photo, choose a picture of just you, so there is no guesswork involved.

 

  •         Avoid using your computer’s webcam for photos as these generally turn out pretty dreadful.

 

  •         Post images that show your friendly side, with a normal and easy smile.

 

  •         Include at least two photos and preferably four or more.

 

  •         It’s not considered a good idea to post pictures of yourself with the opposite sex, even if is your sister! Many women find this a turn off and it can be very confusing. More confusion leads to less responses.

There is plenty of conflicting advice about international online dating that can make things confusing for someone new. While the stigma of long distance dating has virtually disappeared, if you want to meet Asian women online, you’ll need to start by working on your profile. If you use the pointers we’ve given you here, you will stand out from the crowd and have the experience you desire. That’s a promise!

How to set up a great online dating profile!
10 Online Dating Do’s and Don’ts
Advice for Dating Asian Women

Use Online Dating To Meet Potential Matches Worldwide.

Meet online matches, world wide

Online dating has changed drastically over the years. It seems everyone who is single is using online dating to find love. With more options on where to date it seems that middle aged adults, especially men, are looking overseas to find somebody special. Here at Cherry Blossoms we specialize mainly in Asian dating. Our clients are generally Western men looking to date Asian women. Dating online has changed the way people date and now the world is wide open to online dating, but we know there are a few ways to make it even easier.

Avoid these common mistakes when dating online:

1. Not filling out your profile completely. When you make your profile, do the best job you can. How you present yourself online is very important. Try to tell a funny story and show some photos of you doing activities you enjoy. Having a smile on your photo will get more people interested in your profile. Write a good profile just telling your story but don’t tell everything. Keep a little mystery to talk about later.

2. Not leaving your comfort zone. It may be uncomfortable, but nothing will happen unless you put yourself out there. You need to get out of your comfort zone and contact the women you think will be your best matches. Many people are afraid of getting hurt or running into scammers. Get out of your comfort zone and get the conversation started, take your time.

3. Telling lies. Lies are a huge “no no” online, and in any potential relationship. Be confident and honest in your interactions because there is no point in lying. By lying, even little white lies, you will break any bond of trust your date may have had in you. Honesty is the best policy here.

4. Not being proactive. If you wait for someone to find you, instead of looking for a online date yourself, it might never happen. Online dating has evolved to a point where you need to invest time and effort to find your match. Be proactive and actively search and communicate with your matches. Seriously, you miss 100% of the chances you don’t take.

5. Being too picky. Let’s be honest for men online dating and picking a match is based on just the photo a lot of the time. Don’t be to picky. Give potential dates a chance even if they’re not the right height or your “Perfect 10”. The worst that can happen is that you don’t click and you move on. The best case scenario? You find a friend and maybe a lover.

6. You fall in love too soon. When you communicate with someone online, it’s natural to be honest and give trust because you assume they’re a good person, just like you. It’s important to be safe when meeting people online. Take it slow and be mindful about what the other person says and does. It’s ok to not trust someone right away- after all, you’ve just met them! Never send money: we can’t stress this enough. Don’t send money to anyone you haven’t met in person. Report anyone who asks for money.

Don’t give up. I see so many people just give online dating a few days. They get discouraged when they don’t get an immediate response, but don’t put any effort into their profile message, or having a photo.

Online dating does take effort and, I promise you, if you put the effort in, there will be lots of excitement. I am confident that if you keep getting out there and engaging members you will find your match.

Good Luck and Happy Online Dating,

Bob
CB Staff

Also see:
“Cherry Blossoms Success Stories”
10 Do’s and 10 Don’ts to Remember When Online Dating
More Marriage-Minded Single Asian Women are on Cherry Blossoms

Tips for Dating Asian Women Online

Tips for Dating Asian Women Online

Here’s what you’re going to need to know when looking to date Asian women online:

Dating Asian women will take more than a suave Cherry Blossoms profile and sitting back and waiting for the clicks to pile up. You should know that competition will be stiff and plentiful, as Asian women get a significant amount of attention from men around the world since they’re known for being enchantingly stunning, obliging, and exceedingly sweet.

Here are a couple tips for your next visit to the best Asian dating website, these will help you move to the next level:

During the introduction phase, learn about her interests
Everyone knows you need two to tango. While you’re dating, Asian women will be quick to get some answers concerning you and your interests. It would be extremely impressive for you to show interest and get some insight into what makes her tick… Learn about all of the things that make her smile, angry, sad and overjoyed.

Avoid mentioning stereotypes at all cost.
Really, no one likes to be categorized. Everyone wants to be seen as an individual and appreciated for their uniqueness. Hurling out preconceptions about Asian women is one of the quickest ways to have an Asian woman high-tailing it in the opposite direction. It’s a given that you have a “thing” for Asian women if you are online dating through Cherry Blossoms, so verbalizing it really doesn’t add anything.

Never send money to anyone. Really, this is more of a life lesson than a dating Asian women lesson.
There’s ZERO reason you should need to send anyone money… after all, you just met them online! When you’re meeting women online, take your time and get to know them. Start interacting online to really find out if there is a love connection. While most Asian women have simple goals of love, romance and marriage, be aware that some don’t and will misuse your generosity.

Again, NEVER SEND MONEY and report any person who asks to the Cherry Blossoms Staff.


Never, ever, ever say anything negative about her family.

This is another life lesson that’ll serve you well while dating anyone! Specifically for Asians family is everything! The idea of being family-oriented is so basic in the Asian culture that when you date an Asian woman, consider that you may also need to court every last individual from her family.

Be open to her faith and culture. Don’t make assumptions.
While eighty-six percent of Filipinos are Roman Catholic, it’s not an automatic given. Culture and religious beliefs tend to differ according to location, so don’t assume to know her religion before she tells you. Plus, it gives you more to talk about while you’re learning about each other!

Remember, the Asian women you meet online are people.
Even if you’re meeting online, they deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. Not every Asian woman you are interested in dating will be interested in being your personal geisha. Lead with respect and you may find the love of your life.

These are just some simple hints to get the ball rolling. What comes next is completely up to you- are you ready for the adventure called, “Love”? If you are then what are you waiting for? Start meeting Asian women online at CherryBlossoms.com.

10 Do’s and 10 Don’ts to Remember When Online Dating

Hey Guys AND Gals,

 

Bob with the CB Staff here.

 

Do you ever wonder, “Why am I not getting responses to my online messages? What can I do to make my profile more attractive?”

 

Here are some of the things which will get you into trouble and reduce your chances of finding  a great online date.  These are TEN obvious things you should avoid doing, and TEN ways to fix  them.

 

Fix ’em and improve your profile- a better profile means better results for YOU.

 

 DON’T just rely on having a great photo:  While it’s been proven that having a great photo is important, it’s also important to have some good text. If all you have is a great photo and haven’t committed at least a little time to putting your profile information together, it shows.  

 

DO: Have at least one great photo AND spend a little time and put together a great profile- spend some time writing about what you like to do, who you are, and what you’re searching for in a partner.

 

 DON’T use a photo that that’s old:  This is one of the biggest online dating sins because once you start emailing back and forth a couple times you’re bound to end up on a video chat. What happens when you meet and you don’t look like the picture? What can you say about that?

 

DO: Use a current photo that shows you at your best. It can be a selfie, or have a friend take one of you. Action shots (you doing something you love, ATVing, fishing, diving) get a lot of attention.

 

 DON’T get sloppy with spelling and grammar:  If your spelling and grammar are horrible other members may think that you don’t care or, at worst, are not very smart. Sorry, it’s the truth.

 

DO: Take the time to use spell check, give your ad the once over or even have a friend look over your ad  before you post. If you’ve already posted, it’s ok to go back and update it later.

 

DON’T lie.  It can get very difficult to keep track of all the little fibs you tell when you make a habit out of it. If you talk a lot, or email a lot, it’ll show you to be untrustworthy.  

 

DO: Be your real self. The real you is pretty good. After all, isn’t that who you want people to fall in love with?

 

DON’T write a novel in your profile. Nobody wants to know you’re gluten intolerant or you live with your brother right off the bat. It can be overwhelming to people who are viewing  your profile.

 

DO: Leave a little bit of mystery. Save your life story for conversing later while you’re getting to know someone. You’ll have more to talk about.

 

 DON’T make your entire profile a list. If your profile looks like a laundry list of “I Don’t Want to Meets”, you’re probably not going to get many responses.  

 

DO: *Briefly* talk about the kind of person you are and the kind of person you’d like to meet. Focus on the positives.

 

 DON’T be weird: Let’s face it. Coming on too strong can be a real turn off.  Don’t bring up sex up right away. Be a little conservative in your first messages.  For example, “I just want to cuddle and listen to your heartbeat” can be kind of scary for someone you’ve just met.

 

DO: Save the sweet (or sexy) stuff for when you get to know them better and they get to know you better.

 

DON’T get attached to someone just based on a photo and a profile, no matter how great the profile picture and text are. There is still a lot you don’t know and can’t know until you’ve had a chance to talk to them.

 

DO:  Slow down and take your time to know the other person before you make a decision on if they’re the right one for you.

 

DON’T send money.  It can be hard when you really think you found someone and they suddenly have a hardship and request money from you.  

 

DO: No, just DON’T. Don’t send money for any reason, especially if you haven’t met them in person. Be sure to report their profile to our customer service team if they do.

 

DON’T be a arrogant or a grump. If all you do is talk about all the bad experiences you’ve had, people pick up on that. If you don’t like to chat or email with people who are constantly moping or bragging, what makes you think other people will want to, too?

 

DO: Be positive. Most people wanting to meet someone online are looking for someone who will be fun to be around. It’s ok to talk yourself up a little bit, but don’t stretch it too much.

 

From experience, we know that it’s hard to go wrong if you just stay honest. Write and talk in a mature and adult way. Be respectful of – it’ll keep things interesting.

here’s a lot of singles  who are looking for love, just like you.

 

Aloha,

 

Bob

Cherry Blossoms Staff